After an emergency, a young woman provides emotional support to comfort an older man as they both sit on a sofa and hold cups of tea

© John Eccles/British Red Cross

We can all imagine how hard it must be to deal with an emergency. A flood, fire or accident can change lives in minutes.

But do we think enough about the emotional impact?

It doesn’t just affect those who are hurt, see the emergency, or face damage to their homes or businesses.

The ripples can spread to relatives, neighbours and even entire communities, and last for months or years afterwards.

New British Red Cross research shows that emotional support for people affected by a crisis is crucial. It can feel as important as helping with essentials like food, clothes and a place to stay.

Red Cross front-line volunteers and staff respond to a UK emergency every four hours. Often, we provide safe spaces where we can offer people emotional and practical support.

But family, friends and neighbours are the ones who are going to be there in the days, weeks and months to come.

These practical tips can help if the worst happens to someone you know:

How you can help in or after an emergency

Help them feel comfortable

Find a calm and private space where you both feel comfortable.

Make sure the person’s immediate practical needs – such as for medication, food, drink and dry clothes – are met.

Think about how that person would want to receive support. It’s important to treat people with dignity, understanding and respect during difficult times.

Give them a space to talk

Simply giving someone a space to talk and a chance to tell their story can be helpful in itself.

Let them set the pace and tell them they’re not alone.

If they’re finding it difficult, let them know you’re there when they’re ready.

Reassure them

There’s no right or wrong way to react to traumatic events and people can feel a wide range of emotions at different times.

Someone might feel shock, disbelief, numbness, disorientation, relief, anger or guilt. Acknowledging that their response is a normal reaction to abnormal events can be really helpful. It can also give you an opportunity to establish a supportive relationship.

These feelings can come and go at different times, particularly when people are reminded of memorials, press coverage and anniversaries, etc.

Keep calm and listen

It might be upsetting to hear that someone you care about is distressed but try to stay calm. This will help them feel calmer too and show them they can open up to you.

When you’re talking to someone in crisis, listen with compassion and try to understand their needs, which can help relieve built-up anxiety. You can then respond to whatever is most important to them, without making assumptions.

Provide information

Find out what information they need and support them to get it.

This could include signposting someone to a local or national charity, voluntary group or community support organisation. They may be able to provide ongoing specialist support.

This can enable the person to make informed decisions and feel more in control.

What not to do in or after an emergency

Don’t put yourself in danger or a vulnerable position

Before you support someone, make sure you are both away from physical danger and people know where you are.

If you’ve also been affected by the emergency, or have been through a similar experience in the past, please think about how you feel and whether you’re the right person to support them.

Stepping back is not a sign of weakness and means that someone else, who may be better placed to provide support in that moment, can step in.

Don’t second guess or assume someone’s needs

Don’t guess or assume what someone means based on what you think you’d need if you were in their shoes.

By listening carefully and with compassion, you remain neutral and can focus on the needs of the person in crisis. This way, you don’t project your own thoughts and feelings onto the situation.

Careful listening is empowering and enables people to make their own choices and decisions. It can even help prevent serious reactions later.

Don’t ignore the impact it has on you

If supporting someone in crisis has an emotional impact on you, ask for help from someone you trust.

Your GP or a free 24-hour support service such as the Samaritans can be a good first step.

In most major emergencies, the local authority will publish details of where people affected can get specialist support, so visit their website for more information.

Find out more about how you can get ready for an emergency